love evolves

love evolves as eros errs

Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life…You give them a piece of you. They didn’t ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn’t your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like ‘maybe we should be just friends’ turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”

Above is a Neil Gaiman quote that I found on the web. And though it’s about the painful side of loving, I agree with it nonetheless and personally feel that it’s true because I had experienced the same kind of pain before. More so, the eros kind of love that seems to always expect something in return is a very fickle and insecure emotion. Even then, people still fall right into it. Ahh, but what can humans do about it? After all, it’s an alluring way to experience and appreciate the challenges in life as one grows and matures with time. Besides, feeling the hurt in a relationship may just teach one to learn by heart the selfless-giving kind of Christian love which is agape. In this kind of love, one offers his or her whole self unconditionally to others, exactly as Christ had done for humankind! If one can give till it hurts, then that person is just a heartbeat away from this ultimate, self-sacrificing kind of love! Yes, it’s attainable, of course! One only needs to live faithfully like so until he/she passes away from this world and into eternal life. Because in the end, this person would have proven well enough that the moment he/she decided to live like Christ, his/her life in effect became just one longer deed of Christian love– however trying along the way it might have been– and culminating with self-offering at the moment he/she returns to his/her Maker!
And in both retrospect and foresight, I somehow empathize with those who have experienced some terrible hurt caused by betrayal from their self-centered partners. Because only from these emotionally draining pains can one be tempered to forge ahead into becoming more resilient against the blows that invariably lie ahead! These are the kind of people who are capable of loving anyone selflessly! GOD Bless them all always!!!

My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.” –John 15:12-13 (New International Version)

love is laying down your life for others


6 Responses

  1. I totally agree with you Master Artist!
    I had the same experiences loving and hating the feeling
    especially when love made me felt and left me ‘broken” and helpless.But as seasons passed and as I became wiser and more enlightened of life..I came to realize that love is sacrifice …if one sacrifices her/his life and suffers for the welfare of the significant other…that is the ultimate expression of true love.Love never waits and expects something in return.
    I wish you all the love Master Artist that you truly deserve!Thanks for sharing your gift to the world…How I wish you will have the idea of how one’s love for the arts just like the way you do could touch people’s lives and make the difference.Keep the flame burning!

    • Hi, 5378! I’m so glad to know that we share the same belief that love is sacrifice, that self-giving is the core quality of true love. Well, love isn’t love when it isn’t all about giving! Add to that the fact that love begets love, indeed! And the good thing about this is– and this is my belief, also– that everyone is capable of love. In a way, once a person experiences this, it functions much like a spring of virtue that just wells up inside one’s loving heart, drawing of course from God’s gift of grace! One must first have love before that person is able to share it with others. Surely, one can’t offer his or her life if he or she is not alive and prepared to die, right? For how can a person give something which he/she doesn’t have?
      I thank you so much for your kind words, 5378, and for wishing me love! I wish you the best as well!
      Take care and thanks for always visiting my blog! GOD Bless you and your whole family always!!!

  2. Love..yan ata ang problema ko’s unpredictable and persistent..i don’t want to think much about it, but it always comes in like an uninvited guest na ayaw umalis-alis!..

    • Hi, Jem! Thanks for dropping by!
      Makapangyarihan talaga ang love! Para sa akin, it is the most powerful of all emotions! And talking about lifetime partnerships, if you’ve found your true love– the one that you believe you can’t live without– you’ll feel that your life seems complete already as you’ve finally met your significant half. Your search is over and you’re on the right track! All is well and good! But if you haven’t found your lifetime partner yet, then you wait hopefully for that right person to come along. In the meantime, you’ll meet other people who you’d wish would include the one for you. But sometimes, you don’t meet that person early on in your life. “Love,” then, as it’s said, comes and goes. But soon along the way, with God’s blessings, you’ll eventually meet your beloved half!
      Good luck, take care, and thanks so much again for visiting my blog! I appreciate it a lot!
      GOD Bless you, Jem, and all your loved ones always!!!

  3. yeah..siguro maghihintay na lang muna ako..i’m tired of always searching and ending up with regrets..and too tired logging in and logging out of someone else’s life..nakakapagod, literally..hehe 😐

    • Hi, Jem! Oo, I believe it’s much better not to hurry on committing yourself to someone if you’re not really sure yet of your feelings. Patience is a virtue. And this is especially true when it comes to matters of the heart. But once you feel, with conviction, that you’ve already found that right person for you, then you act on it and let her know about your true feelings and intention! There is always a right time for everything, as it is said in the Bible: “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:”– Ecclesiastes 3:1 (KJV)
      Thanks so much for visiting, Jem! Take care and GOD Bless you and your whole family always!!!

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